Welcome to my page.

Who am I?
I am a mother of a son who has been diagnosed with Autism. In this journal I am planning to share my teaching experience with my son.

Am I homeschooling my son?
Yes, I am.

Am I trained to teach my son?
No, I am not trained with any formal certification.

How am I teaching my son?
First, I have taken out one thing from my mind. That is my son is a special need kid. I treat him as a child without any labels. That makes it easy to teach him.

What I am teaching him at home?
Things that interests him.
Things that he can do.
Things I know he will be able to do.
Things which are the next logical step to whatever he is doing.

Am I setting goals for him at home?
Yes. I set goals for him to work with him.

How am I setting goals?
Based on his needs and interests.

How am I preparing myself to teach him?
By reading books, attending workshops, joining in various forums.

Am I following any method?
I believe the methods are for “me” to understand the condition of my son and to prepare myself. I try to understand ABA, TEACCH, Hanen, RPM etc. to increase my awareness about autism and the possible approaches to train. But while working with my son I try not to fit him within the constraints of one method.

Then how am I teaching him?

I prepare customized materials based on the goals taken. We use iPad, educational video, online resources to achieve his goals.

Am I happy with the way of our learning?
Yes. I am happy about his progress.

Is there any advantage?
Yes, as I primarily rely on alternate learning, there is no commuting. I find plenty of time to focus on ADL without any rush. No follow-ups for therapy appointments etc. No after school meltdowns.

Is there any disadvantage?
Yes, socialization.
Also, if we are stuck somewhere in our goals, searching for guidance or an external review does take a long time.
Customizing materials and teach aids takes time. Sometimes I feel lonely as nobody is there to vent out.

What is the purpose of this page?
To document and share our learning path. It will help all of us and our future generation.

Please reach me out through autism.india@yahoo.co.in with details of your contact if you are a professional/institution

Looking forward to parents who want to share their experience as well.

Some thoughts on how to use the contents of this page:
In this page, I am only sharing my experience or other parent's experiences. These are not therapy suggestions. The materials published here are all mostly relevant from the perspective of my son. Every child is unique and you may have to discover what works for your kid. I am not promoting any specific teaching method and will recommend a mix and match of methods for any kid


Learning not to ignore

In recent days my son kept on saying “Lotus Swamy”, “Lotus Shampoo” and “Ashiya Gulab Jamun”. For quiet sometime I ignored the Lotus & Ashiya and made him to say “Swamy”(meaning god), “Shampoo” and “Gulab Jamun” which were the correct forms according to me.

But whenever I corrected, he echoed it at that point of time. But whenever he said these words by himself, he repeated the way he said before.
At last a fine day came, when I came to know the mystery of these prefixes One day he picked up an advertisement pamphlet for a super market and showed it to me and my husband saying “Ashiya Gulab Jamun”. Then we realised the brand name was “Ashirwad” who were giving plenty of advertisements for their products in TV. They have a Gulab Jamun Product as well. Learning this from TV, he had said in his own version as “Ashiya Gulab Jamun”. We were stunned and of course very happy that he had started discovering things on his own and communicating it.

It was a big lesson for me that it was probably time for me to learn him from as well. In fact the next learning was even more profound. We used to drive to a specific place for some work, weekly once. When we were crossing that place, he showed a temple and said “Lotus Swamy”. Then I realised, that temple was in the design of a small flower curled upwards with a deity inside. I never correlated that with a lotus. But my son had and educated me once again.

The same way I figured “Lotus Shampoo” was in fact “L’oreal shampoo”. My son had with his evolving reading made L’oreal into Lotus. Now I have learnt not to ignore something he says which is not immediately understandable.

Another mystery between me and my son is “Chicken”, “Hen”, “Elisa”, “Teddy bear” and “Walrus”. These are all the sweet names by which he calls me when he feels an overflowing affection. In fact “Elisa” means Elephant which he corrected later and the latest name he has given me is Walrus.

I hope soon I will know the secret of above nick names like “Ashiya” and one day my son will also call me “mummy” instead.

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I am in the stage of making my son independent in Brushing. But to reach this stage, I should say that I had to undergo lot of struggles (and still undergoing☺).

I think even struggle is a very simple word to explain the journey of brushing with my son.
My son was diagnosed with Autism only at the age of 3 years. When he was around 1.5 years, I had met a Doctor for some purpose. Just like that I asked the Doctor about brushing my son’s teeth. She said it is natural that some children to resist brushing and not to worry. She suggested to use soft white cloth to start with instead of a brush. And also she advised to give lot of crunchy vegetables like carrot and cucumber.

On seeing the vegetables my son ran away and I got a good “crunchy” biting when I put my finger into his mouth with soft white cloth for brushing.

Now he is going to be 9 years and today he can take the brush, put the paste and start brushing, though not very thoroughly, wash the brush, keep it back and rinse the mouth.  The journey has been so long and very exhausting and he is still in the processes of learning (i.e. to become completely independent).

Let me now explain some of the routines that helped my son to bring him to this stage.
First, I introduced brushing as a routine and did the brushing like ritual though I didn’t get much support from my son. I didn’t keep it as a first task in the morning since I know it will upset him in the morning itself. So I mostly waited till he got into a good mood in the morning. In the beginning stages, screaming was the usual first outcome on seeing the toothpaste and toothbrush. Sometimes he allowed for a single stroke, sometimes we came out of the bathroom without brushing at all. And a very important thing here is I always used the same brand of tooth paste so that any change in the colour/taste of the paste didn’t lead to more anxiety. I also used a soft brush which helped to handle his sensitivity (about which I will explain little further down).

Every day the brushing task will be in his daily schedule (Note: A visual schedule showing all the important tasks for the day) and by showing it, I took him into the bathroom daily. Slowly his anxiety about brushing reduced, but the sensitivity in the mouth stopped him to co-operate with me. I knew about this sensitivity which is typical for many kids with Autism after he was diagnosed at 3 years.
At this stage therapists helped me to reduce the sensitivity in the mouth.

One therapist taught me to use the soft baby brushes and also how to make simple strokes on the cheeks (inside the mouth). So focus is on the cheek than teeth in the initial stages.

Another occupational therapist taught to gently massage the cheek, chin, upper lips, lower lips (outside, not inside the mouth) i.e. around the mouth.

So these massages along with the routines helped my son to brush. Today he is able to adjust to different toothpastes and almost independent.

To make him independent I use a detailed visual schedule specially for brushing with all the actions required to do brushing(like take the brush, take the toothpaste, put toothpaste etc).  This Visual schedule help him to understand what to do next.  The picture shown below is the visual schedule that my son uses daily while brushing.

 Let me explain how I prepared the above Schedule.

First step is to prepare the below base sheet. Base sheet is used to stick the visual cards one after the another.
To prepare the base sheet I laminate a A4 size paper and cut it into 3 equal strips. And stick the laminated strips one below the another with transparent cellotape(to make it long enough for all the visual cards).

Now, the next step is to prepare the visual cards to stick on the above schedule, separately.
I prepared the above visual cards using word document, laminated and cut it into individual pieces. The visuals in the visual cards are from google images and I have added text to my son's understanding. Then put velcros on both the sides of the visual cards.

Now the Visual schedule is ready for the use.  For the daily use I hanged this visual schedule near the wash basin.

Whenever my son finishes one action as per the visual cards, I flip it to indicate that action is complete(that is why there is Velcro on the front as well as the back), like picture shown below

The reason why I do the flipping myself is that my son gets distracted from the actions for brushing into the flipping action. So I make him focused on the actions and I do the flipping on his behalf.

After following this visual schedule, my son has become almost indepent with ability to follow this sequence independently. But does the brushing for front teeth only as of now and also does not necessarily do it as a part of morning duties, but rather any time he wants to brush. These are the two areas now I am continuing to work with my son as the next steps.

Hope this experience helps you make your own action plan for your kids. All the best.
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